A man’s disconnection from woman, it turns out, is                                 simply a breadcrumb trail back to where

                     he’s disconnected from himself

            Read this story from a woman and ask yourself

                      "Do I want some of this"?

"I dated a lot of men. I tried really hard to fall for the ones who were really good looking or could treat me to expensive dinners. And, out of nowhere, came this mediocre-looking guy, who was a little skinny, and had NO money. The first date he ever took me on was to a local diner & then walking around the neighborhood - not going anywhere cool, just walking.

But - He was present: he really paid attention to me; he noticed little things about me, in a totally un-contrived way; he held my gaze un-self-consciously; he seemed comfortable in his own skin I never felt like I needed to be different than I was for him (I cannot stress how important this one is...).

He had strong integrity: he was excited about his own life - which allowed him to pursue me unapologetically, without ever coming across as 'needy'; he was connected to his own values & made decisions based on them, rather than on whims.

Bottom line is - I felt better when I was with him than when I was with any of the other men; I felt better with him than without him; I felt more ME in his gaze; and I fell for him utterly & completely, and against my better judgment.

WHY is this? I don't know. I do know it is something I felt *viscerally* - in my body."